A lot of people over the last few months have asked me how I'm doing, especially in light of all the family loss I recently endured. My response to their question? Over and over again, I tell them that I don't really have "good days" and "bad days" anymore. It's been hard for me to have good days in light of what's happened to me over much of the last year. At the same time, I really don't have "bad days" either, because how can anything top losing your beloved family members? Instead, I explain that instead of good days and bad days, I have "days that are manageable", and "days when I really struggle".
Several months ago, I would say that most of my days were the struggling ones, with only a few days here and there that felt manageable. Nowadays, I'm having a slightly higher percentage of days that are manageable. I can't remember where I first read it, but it's becoming clearer to me now: we don't ever fully recover from our grief -- we just get better at learning to live with it.
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