Friday, August 15, 2025

Words to Ponder Over: Robert McCammon

I found this extended passage from Robert McCammon's 1991 book Boy's Life.  I don't think I need to add any commentary here -- I think it speaks for itself:

“You know, I do believe in magic. I was born and raised in a magic time, in a magic town, among magicians. Oh, most everybody else didn’t realize we lived in that web of magic, connected by silver filaments of chance and circumstance. But I knew it all along. When I was twelve years old, the world was my magic lantern, and by its green spirit glow I saw the past, the present and into the future. You probably did too; you just don’t recall it. See, this is my opinion: we all start out knowing magic. We are born with whirlwinds, forest fires, and comets inside us. We are born able to sing to birds and read the clouds and see our destiny in grains of sand. But then we get the magic educated right out of our souls. We get it churched out, spanked out, washed out, and combed out. We get put on the straight and narrow and told to be responsible. Told to act our age. Told to grow up, for God’s sake. And you know why we were told that? Because the people doing the telling were afraid of our wildness and youth, and because the magic we knew made them ashamed and sad of what they’d allowed to wither in themselves.

After you go so far away from it, though, you can’t really get it back. You can have seconds of it. Just seconds of knowing and remembering. When people get weepy at movies, it’s because in that dark theater the golden pool of magic is touched, just briefly. Then they come out into the hard sun of logic and reason again and it dries up, and they’re left feeling a little heartsad and not knowing why. When a song stirs a memory, when motes of dust turning in a shaft of light takes your attention from the world, when you listen to a train passing on a track at night in the distance and wonder where it might be going, you step beyond who you are and where you are. For the briefest of instants, you have stepped into the magic realm.

That’s what I believe.

The truth of life is that every year we get farther away from the essence that is born within us. We get shouldered with burdens, some of them good, some of them not so good. Things happen to us. Loved ones die. People get in wrecks and get crippled. People lose their way, for one reason or another. It’s not hard to do, in this world of crazy mazes. Life itself does its best to take that memory of magic away from us. You don’t know it’s happening until one day you feel you’ve lost something but you’re not sure what it is. It’s like smiling at a pretty girl and she calls you “sir.” It just happens.

These memories of who I was and where I lived are important to me. They make up a large part of who I’m going to be when my journey winds down. I need the memory of magic if I am ever going to conjure magic again. I need to know and remember, and I want to tell you.”

Wednesday, August 13, 2025

Words to Ponder Over: Dr. Mary Lamia

A few weeks ago, I was at a public library when I stumbled upon this book by Dr. Mary Lamia: "Grief Isn't Something to Get Over".  Dr. Lamia, a psychologist, published the book in 2022.

 

There were a few quotes in the book that stood out for me:

"We may find comfort in focusing our attention on what we had, rather than on our yearning to restore what is impossible to replicate in the present."

"The passage of time after a loss is helpful to us as the discrepancy between past and present memories become less stark."

"A person's death is a distinct but incongruent memory, and it is hard to assimilate it into what we know and remember." 

"Goodbyes are only a single remembered event in a lifetime."

Words to Ponder Over: Robert McCammon

I found this extended passage from Robert McCammon's 1991 book Boy's Life.  I don't think I need to add any commentary here -- I...